Time and Attention
Updated: Dec 12, 2019
As I alluded to a few days ago, we are right in the heart of the season of giving. I can't be the only one thinking that giving is getting expensive right about now. Amazon has sure made Christmas shopping, or any shopping for that matter, a lot easier and a little more affordable, but giving is expensive.
Add the expectation/obligation of gifting to the pressures of fitting gift expenses into your budget, and you are liable to drive yourself crazy.
Let's be honest, for many, this time of year is more about getting than giving.
Bear with me, this is not meant to be cynical, and I'm certainly not a scrooge.
I love the holiday season, and yes, I enjoy gifts as much as the next person, but for me, this season has always been about family, and I come from a large one. My best memories aren't of gifts received, they are of waking up in a house with people sprawled about everywhere you look, sleeping on couches and floors, probably not very comfortable, but thrilled to be around those that they love.
This year, my sisters and our families will all head to Florida, after Christmas, to join my parents for a holiday family reunion. I'm pretty excited. Sure, there will be some getting and some giving that everyone will appreciate, but the true gift will be our time together.
Togetherness is what the holidays mean to me.
The true gift is time and attention.
Things are great, some more appreciated than others, but your time and your attention are unique to the individual you are sharing them with in that particular moment; and they are a gift that only you can give.
So, for a moment, let's forget about the physical gifts that will be given and received and go out of our way to share our time and attention with someone who really needs it. That person might be you, or a stranger at the grocery. Who knows, 5 minutes of your time and attention might just change somebodies life.