About a month back, I listened to my friend, Joe Ferraro, interview a guy by the name of Julian Treasure, on his podcast (episode 142, One Percent Better Podcast).
The topic: listening.
Most of us are not very good at it. As Julian alludes to, it is likely because we are never taught. There are no listening classes in school. What do you expect.
Take a minute to listen:
to your surroundings
to your friends
to your spouse.
You might even take 57 minutes and 53 seconds to listen to Joe and Julian.
It will be worth your time.
I listened twice.
The second time, since I usually listen at 1.7x, I slowed it down so that I could take it all in and pay more attention to what I was hearing.
Listening and hearing are not the same thing.
One is passive (for most of us), the other is active.
Listening = Actively paying attention to what you are hearing.
Here are a few things Julian said that I found particularly noteworthy:
"Listening is the access to civilized disagreement." (more of that sure would be nice right about now...)
"Listen as if for the first time."
"You can not truly listen to another human being and do anything else at the same time."
99.99% of us could probably do an exponentially better job of listening. I'll be the first one to plead guilty of hearing more than I listen. I'm working on it, but I still have miles to go. I hope that you'll join me.