From This Day Forward: Sacred Marriage
Updated: Dec 13, 2020
For about as long as I can remember, being a husband and a father was near the top of my priority list. Now that I am both of those things, it is vividly clear to me how important both of those jobs are...and how difficult.
Both require great sacrifice, a log of apologies and asking forgiveness, and I can't imagine any better way to learn about patience and empathy. Weaknesses in all parties have their ways of creeping to the surface and exposing themselves, and each of us have strengths that help fortify our familial bond.
Up to this point, I have read several books on parenting and learned a few things. However, a little while back, while doing some self reflecting, I realized that I needed to be more intentional about how I love my wife. So during the past few weeks that I wasn't doing a tremendous amount of reading, the books that I did read were two books about marriage: From This Day Forward - by Craig and Amy Groeschel, and Sacred Marriage - by Gary Thomas.
I am not going to go into great detail about either book, this is more a personal reflection than anything, but I would encourage couples, Christian or otherwise, married or thinking about it, to take a look at either book or both. Both books shed some light on some very real challenges marriage presents that I will now be better equipped to navigate with God at the forefront.
I have spent a lot of time over the past couple of years on personal development and self improvement. More recently during that time, I have spent a lot of it in prayer and desperation, asking God where to go next. What I realized was that when it comes to building a better marriage, becoming a better me is incomplete. Part of that process needs to include intentional effort in the context of marriage.
Yes, I want to and will continue to pursue improvement as an individual. But, as a husband, a solo journey toward self improvement could be a dangerous one if I don't keep my priorities straight. It is important to include my wife on this adventure.
Marriage, according to Gary Thomas, is a "long walk." Craig Groeschel might add that it is a long walk between two wildly imperfect human beings. I couldn't be more grateful that I get to take this walk with Sara. It is important to me that while we are on this walk that we become a better us. And that's not going to happen through osmosis. It's going to take work. Hard work. And it's going to be worth it.
I am feeling particularly vulnerable as I prepare to throw this post out into the void, so here goes nothin.
I am also feeling that it is particularly noteworthy to mention that 9 days and I marks the day that Sara and I got married 6 years ago, and that's definitely somethin.