I was having a conversation with a guy today.
We'll call him Rex.
Rex and I were discussing a number of things, and he said something profound.
"I always thought that people grow up, but, it turns out, most of them just get older."
I might be slightly misquoting Rex here, but you get the gist of it.
I spent a lot of years just getting older. I'm sure I matured a little bit along the way, but not much. As a collegiate athletic coach, I am charged with a very important task: helping 18 to 22 year old kids grow up.
To me, that is far more than their athletic, or even academic success.
It is about helping a boy take steps toward becoming a man.
I was ill prepared to do this in the early stages of my career. I thought that the most important part of my job was helping develop better baseball players. Admittedly, if I wasn't good at that part, I would be out of a job, but the job is far bigger than that.
I didn't really start looking hard at myself until I got married, had a baby, and started grad school (the second time around). I am now, more than ever, far more capable of leading student athletes down that path because I myself have realized how important it is to walk that path myself. And that the path doesn't ever end. Learning and maturing is a lifelong adventure.
If you want to facilitate growth in others, you must first hold yourself accountable for your own growth. Without the accountability piece, any message you deliver will be hollow.
Are you growing up, or are you simply getting older?
And if you want a place to start, check out Yesterday's post and click on some of the James Clear links. He has some pretty brilliant ideas.