Updated: Jul 30, 2019
What do you do when you're discouraged?
Each of the last 3 summers have felt a little discouraging as they come to a close. I'm another year older, with a growing family, in a part time job in the most expensive place in the country to live. And I'm not complaining. We make it work. But I sincerely look forward to being able to make it work for them in a slightly better fashion.
Full-time college coaching jobs are hard to come by, head coaching jobs are harder to come by, and coaching opportunities at the Division 1 level, my dream, are the hardest to come by.
The demand is much larger than the supply.
Through the frustration and discouragement, I understand why people, especially coaches with families, give it up, quit working in baseball, and get a job in the real world.
The only problem is, I'm not a quitter.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not shaming those who make that decision. Not in the least bit. Sometimes it's not even their choice. This professions chews up and spits out capable coaches every year.
I'll admit that I've had conversations about what I might do if I decided that the time had come to move in a different direction. But my road hasn't come to a dead end yet, and I'm not ready to take a different fork.
Sitting around wondering when I'm going to catch a break is a fruitless waste of everybody's time.
I feel like coaching college baseball is where I belong. The student-athletes that I have had the privilege to be around have helped me grow, and I feel that helping their transition into manhood is my calling.
I'm pretty confident in my ability to convey the baseball part of the message. But the game itself is secondary.
I often tell recruits that choosing where they go to college is one of the first big decisions that they get to make as a man: one that will play a large role in the direction that they go and shape the choices that they make for the rest of their lives. As a college coach, when a student-athlete chooses your school, they are placing an immense amount of faith and trust in you to guide them in the right direction.
I hope to make a positive impact on that journey, encouraging them when times are tough (and they will be), and inspiring them to be excellent in all that they do as they pursue greatness on whatever path that they choose.
In order to get to continue to do that, in an industry where the demand so grossly exceeds the supply, I'll have to figure out how to set myself apart from the masses.
I'm not exactly what that is at the moment, but in the meantime, I'll follow the advice that I've been given by countless coaches from whom I have asked advice.
I will continue to do everything in my power to be great at the job I currently have. I will continue to pursue new relationships and strengthen the relationships that I currently have. I will continue my relentless pursuit to learn and improve and change for the better, while helping as many people as possible along the way. And last but certainly not least (most certainly priority 1) I will be the best husband and father that my family could ask for.
I feel much better upon completing this entry than I did when I started.
So, to answer my initial question...what do you do when you're discouraged? Maybe try writing something down and hash some things out with yourself.
Now, if you'll excuse me, Ace wants me to come play with him. We're making Hair Dough Friends...