Updated: Jun 29, 2019
6:00 AM Wake-up
Sometimes when I'm watching the kids loving life, I envy them. They are totally free. Even when they are throwing tantrums...Hope's are rare, Ace's are 6 times a day...it still makes me smile...most of the time.
They have no awareness of societal norms, and society certainly doesn't hold them to the same standard. If they want to run around naked in public, everybody smiles. Even 5 or 6 year olds laugh, not realizing that they aren't as far removed from those days as they might like to think. If I ran around naked I'd get yelled at and arrested...unless I was in downtown San Francisco, you never know what you're going to see there, and anything goes.
Their life is a collection of moments, much like ours. The difference is that they don't have the cognitive ability to attach their current moments to the past or the future. They live each moment like it's going to last forever, and I think that might be why it can be so devastating to them when we adults ruin it by telling them that the moment is over.
All moments end. Many are never truly appreciated by adults because we are distracted, and our minds are cluttered with thoughts of other things that detract from the now. Teens and preteens and early elementary age children are distracted by their addiction to screens...this phenomenon makes me incredibly sad. And I'd like to say adults aren't part of the problem, but that would be a lie. I've been trying to set a better example here myself...but I'm getting distracted; this is a conversation for another day. Reeling it back in now.
When you miss a moment, you never get it back. Is the cell phone/tablet game, or YouTube video, or whatever it is you are worried about that is distracting you really worth it. You can play your game, watch your video, or worry about your worry later. You never get this moment again.
Immerse yourself in right now. Become captivated by the moments that you're in.
If you don't know what that looks like, go to a park somewhere, find a flock of geese, and send your 17 month old on a literal wild goose chase.