Ask Better Questions
Updated: Feb 24, 2020
"What did I do wrong?"
This is one of my least favorite questions.
It is too focused on the negative.
If I spent all of my time pointing out what people did wrong, life would be pretty depressing.
If I spent all of my time worrying about what I did wrong, life would be pretty depressing.
A focus on wrong doesn't provide any solutions.
There is no light at the end of that tunnel.
Determining what went wrong after failure might be valuable in some cases, but only if it is accompanied by a solution.
Let's be more constructive.
"I'm trying this, and it's not working. What do you think? What do you see? What can I do better? Where can I improve?"
These questions are growth oriented.
If we truly want to grow and improve, we need to ask better questions.
Constructive questions that lead to feedback that helps us find a pathway toward a solution.